Of A Sound Mind: Empower yourself

 

In anticipation of Miranda Kerr’s second book, Empower Yourself, I’m actively seeking the best practices to cultivate compassion and contentment.

At the first line of empowerment is a deep capacity to understand the world and our place and purpose in it.

 
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I often break down in ways that most people who know me in real life would never imagine. Unless given work to do, fulfilling its tangible result, and going the extra miles, I feel useless most of the time.

“You haven’t done enough,” the voice curtails as I edit my writing pieces. “You can do better than that. You should’ve done that differently. Why can’t you be perfect?” Well, I am not God, for one, and two, I am merely a human being. It’s this persisting inadequacy I often succumb to that constant self-criticism ensues, which is natural because I hold that an excellent writer is someone who’s simultaneously a good listener, a fair editor, and a just reporter.

So often I, without realizing it, have one way or another been conditioned to reduce myself to believing in the illusion that I am powerless, when the root of the problem is precisely this underlying pattern of negative thinking that blinds me from the fact that every thought that gets digested through my head, as well as those that merely passed without my analysis, is all within my power.

Clearly, at the heart of the problem is the problem of the heart.

In honor of one of Miranda’s many influencers, I want to share Deepak Chopra’s practical approach to cultivating self-compassion in life, which is one surefire way I’ve tried and tested to allow myself to feel empowered.

The mind-body guru, who recently co-authored with Harvard University neurologist Rudolph E. Tanzi on Super Brain: Unleash The Explosive Power Of Your Mind, asserts that there are five fundamental practices we can all exercise regularly to set our minds free from perceived limitations and preventing them from discouraging our self-esteem, as he has written in the February 2013 issue of Psychologies magazine:

 
1. INCREASE SELF-AWARENESS

I call this practice a “What would Jesus do?” moment.

Every time you to take yourself out of any context, whether from your environment or from other individuals when you’re in a group, you are increasing your capacity to recognize yourself as a separate entity, utilizing the power of observation without judgment, opening your eyes to neutral grounds in the situation you’re in, and gaining a whole new level of understanding of your own emotions, as well as your responses to different situations.

Increasing self-awareness is a practice that forces you to recognize that you are always responsible for your actions. As you increasingly perceive yourself independent of your subjective experiences, you will also conceive the quiet power to redirect your immediate thoughts and feelings to achieve desired results. In my case, it is turning self-criticism into a constructive one.

2. SELF-REFLECTION

Chopra stated that both Tanzi and him have laid the groundwork of their book under the principle that “you are not your brain – you are the user of your brain.”

On a day-to-day basis, the stream of thoughts that go through your brain requires some serious filtering, lest the incessant stream runs your day and burns you out.

Instead, Chopra invites you to challenge every incoming thought and reflect upon it with the following questions: Why are you afraid of this? Is this true? What is this belief doing to me? Who would I be if I didn’t have this belief? What is the opposite of this experience?

3. MEDITATION

This is where you put on God’s giant spectacles and observe what’s really going on.

When self-awareness is about recognizing your thought patterns, meditation is all about silencing your head and hitting the pause button for a moment – be it a 10-minute period or a single second.

Thanks to my Alkitabku app, I receive a daily devotional of Bible verses to meditate upon. On days that I keep my mind wide open to let in insights related to the verse, or chant the words from the verse repeatedly as I run, it becomes easier over time for me to secretly pray for myself and for others in my daily life without the need to do a yoga pose or take a timeout and sit down in some quiet space. Wherever you are physically, meditation allows you to relax, focus on your breath, and say a prayer simultaneously.

4. CONSCIOUS CHOICE-MAKING

When you have conditioned yourself to think outside the box and become the objective observer of your daily life, you would start to see that, with time, it gets easier to stop yourself from reacting to unpleasant situations and divert your immediate negative thought-pattern as quick as the flip of a switch. You realize that there are a sea of options for you to act for and against, by which, you can choose to erase completely out of your system or, better yet, adopt as your second nature.

Why not learn a good habit and incorporate it as your default mode? As motivational speaker Jim Rohn once said: Motivation is what gets you started. Habit is what keeps you going.

5. REALIZING THAT YOUR PERCEPTIONS OF THE WORLD ARE SHAPED BY YOURSELF AND YOUR BRAIN

In a perfect world, you are living in an environment that reinforces your strengths, and minimizes stressful conditions, and encourages personal growth.

But the truth remains that we cannot change anything but ourselves.

Chopra calls readers to remain aware and alert of the thoughts that knock on your head, as “most of us operate on autopilot, letting our brain lead us; we assume our brain is teaching us. The super brain, on the other hand, is what you create consciously, so you have more insight, intuition, creativity and choice.”

It’s a relief to be reminded that we all have the power to recognize, reflect, meditate, choose, and reshape every thought that enters our mind, and see how it all affects our treatment to ourselves and to others in our daily lives.

 
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Now you tell me: What’s your take on feeling empowered?
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Muchaluva,
Stace.

 

Don’t let yourself go

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There can be no words to describe how much I admire Miranda Kerr.

Recently, she’s been poising her svelte figure over dozens of magazines, notably the upcoming issue of Vogue UK.

 

Miranda Kerr and Flynn Bloom for Vogue UK.

- Image courtesy of FabSugar Australia

 
 

Out of all the Victoria’s Secret Angels I’ve been madly in love with and, for years, sought body motivation from, Miranda Kerr has captured me through her otherworldly beauty the most. She’s beautiful from the inside out.

 
 
 

Her skincare line, KORA Organics, has also recently been voted as numero uno at the Audi Women Of Style Awards in Sydney.

- Image courtesy of sassisam

 
 
 
 

OK. At this point, I sound like a lesbian. But no, I have a loving boyfriend whom I fantasize about everyday.

In her editorial feature on Vogue UK, she shared what she has learned from her Nana on love and life, which I think is worth sharing. “She was, like, ‘Now, love, don’t let yourself go. “Men are very visual and I think it’s important that you wake up in the morning and get yourself together. Don’t slop around the house all day in your pyjamas.”

OK, Miranda, I got that from a long time ago. Somehow when I was single, I tried so hard to keep myself busy that I was never at home. As time goes by, now that I’m attached and life’s getting harder, I kind of like the comfort of lazing around all day after a long week of crazy schedule. I used to be guilty about it but now I’m pretty comfortable with it.

“It’s true. They tell you, ‘It doesn’t matter what you wear or what you look like, I love you anyway,’ but they notice when you make a little effort for them.”

That, I understand. When I slop around the house, however, I put on facial masks and creams while having a detox in my diet all day too – that’s the comfort of being at home all day!

Yes, girls, it’s true what she said. No matter how many billion times your boyfriend tells you that you’re pretty no matter what, you still have to make an effort to keep it up – not too much that it’s high maintenance. But a little effort goes a long way, if you know what I mean ;)

(Besides, there’s nothing wrong with walking around the house half-naked, especially if you’re wearing a ‘surprise’ Victoria’s Secret lingerie for your loved one when he comes back home from work). (I’ll remember this when I get married later).

Wise advice, Miranda, as always!

 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Muchaluva,
Stace.

 

How love looks like

 

 
Muchaluva,
Stace

Style: 2011 – A year of Miranda Kerr

 

 

Source: Grazia Daily

 

Love at first sight

 
I was spring cleaning my Facebook account when I found this essay under my Notes section. I don’t seem to recall what inspired me to write a quick essay about love at first sight on 28 July 2008, but reading it all over again renewed my faith in innocence. I edited the language a bit for better understanding about the message I was trying to deliver. I hope you like it.
 

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Orlando Bloom and Miranda Kerr at the 2011 MET Gala

The talk of the town, the theme of the song, the thought of the day, and the topic everyone just can’t get enough of. It’s always about love.

But let me narrow it down to love at first sight.

So what is it about love at first sight? Why does it exist, and why doesn’t it exist? It’s my love for self-contradiction that makes me juggle two opposing beliefs at once. But anyways, who cares, everyone knows how beautiful love at first sight is, because it doesn’t even take a word to grip your heart, and it takes you over without giving you warnings first. The real question is, even if it does exist, will it stand a life-long commitment?

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