(Gus’ letter to Peter Van Houten, The Fault in Our Stars)
The Art of Thinking Clearly by Rolf Dobelli, page 275-276
This goes out to the fellow chronic overthinkers out there. Hope it helps~
“When do you listen to your head and when do you heed your gut?
A rule of thumb might be: if it is something to do with practised activities, such as motor skills, or questions you’ve answered a thousand times, it’s better not to reflect to the last detail. It undermines your intuitive ability to solve problems. The same applies to decisions that our Stone Age ancestors faced – evaluating what was edible, who would make good friends, whom to trust. For such purposes, we have heuristics, mental shortcuts that are clearly superior to rational thought. With complex matters, though, such as investment decisions, sober reflection is indispensable. Evolution has not equipped us for such considerations, so logic trumps intuition.”
” … I do know you shouldn’t make decisions based on what makes you feel safe. Make your decisions on what makes you feel alive. Life might be too short for regrets – but it’s far too long to live with a compromise.”
Page Count: 398
Release Date: July 17, 2014
ISBN: 978-0-00-750154-0 (Special overseas edition 2014)
Genre: Chick Lit
Tess Brookes was the girl with a plan. Now she’s the girl with a choice.
Should she stay in London and start her own advertising agency with her best friend and potential boyfriend Charlie? Or should she head to exciting Milan to pursue both a new career as a photographer and a new man, the enigmatic and elusive (and highly irritating) Nick?
For the first time, Tess has to choose between the life she always dreamed of and a future she never imagined possible. With her heart and her head pulling her in different directions, Tess has to make a life-changing decision about What a Girl Wants.
What A Girl Wants by Lindsey Kelk, page 235-236
“Life isn’t just about what you want,” I said, shifting on top of my clutch bag. Beading was not comfortable to sit on. “You can’t just do what you want and hope everything will turn out for the best. You’ve got to plan for the future, think ahead. It’s not about what might sound like the most fun now.”
“Wow!” Amy closed her eyes and smiled. “It’s like sitting here listening to your mum.”
All the colour drained from my face and suddenly, I felt very, very sick.
“Can you even hear yourself?” Amy asked. “You’re actually sitting there, telling me that what you want doesn’t matter, what makes you happy doesn’t matter. Is that what you want? Marry Charlie, give up your dreams and slog away day in and day out at the agency so you can turn into a bitter, resentful old cow like your mum?”
“Do I need to go to the restroom again?” Kekipi asked, switching his stare from me to Amy and back again. “Because I didn’t really need to go last time and I’m worried one of the waiters thinks I’m trying to pick him up.”
“No,” Amy threw her arm out in front of him, effectively sticking him to his seat, “you don’t need to do anything. She’s the one who needs to think about what she just said. You don’t know, Nick or Charlie. You can’t decide, agency or photos. You can decide and you do know but you’ve spent so long listening to, and believing, all your mother’s sh*t that you don’t believe it.”
She paused for breath and wine.
“You don’t trust your gut. This is the first time in your entire life you’ve had to make a difficult decision and you’re trying to wimp out of it, but you can’t. If I lived by your logic, I’d be married to Dave and as miserable as sin, maybe even divorced by now. Or worse, I’d be your mum and Brian, sitting around the house, hating each other. Is that what you want? Just be f*cking brave for once in your life.“
I stared across the table at the girl who had been my best friend for as long as I’d been alive.
“Do you ever feel like the people who mean the most aren’t the people you see the most? Lately I just feel like I’m not putting my heart where it matters.”
Page Count: 432 (Kindle Edition)
Release Date: October 29, 2013
Publisher: Gallery Books
A bombshell bookworm. A chronic Casanova. And a lesson in chemistry too scandalous for school.
When Hanna Bergstrom receives a lecture from her overprotective brother about neglecting her social life and burying herself in grad school, she’s determined to tackle his implied assignment: get out, make friends, start dating. And who better to turn her into the sultry siren every man wants than her brother’s gorgeous best friend, Will Sumner, venture capitalist and unapologetic playboy?
Will takes risks for a living, but he’s skeptical about this challenge of Hanna’s…until the wild night his innocently seductive pupil tempts him into bed- and teaches him a thing or two about being with a woman he can’t forget. Now that Hanna’s discovered the power of her own sex appeal, it’s up to Will to prove he’s the only man she’ll ever need.