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Unleashing the inner kitten



It’s the last day of February and I made it (almost) everyday throughout NaBloPoMo February 2013! Now that I’ll be taking a momentary break from my marathon blog posting, are you guys prepared to accomplish something this March?


Prompt of the day: When do you feel your sexiest?

Let’s get downright dirty today :) It’s the last day of February’s NaBloPoMo challenge after all, themed love & sex – might as well let down your hair like it’s already springtime.

Feeling sexy is relative. For me, sexiness is a manifestation of inner confidence, and there are plenty instances when I feel that way.

I can’t choose the sexiest out of the many, but here’s a list of moments, in no particular order, when I do feel sexy:

sexy-legs-21– Image courtesy of The Chive


♥ when I’m wearing a cute underwear

♥ whenever I dress cool and comfortable

♥ when I had an intense workout during the day


tumblr_mbk54tnEFi1qbiztqo1_1280– Image courtesy of ohmydalia via Tumblr


♥ when I’m doing the bridge pose

♥ just whenever I stretch

♥ when I actually make an effort to feel sexy, a.k.a. basic personal care, hygiene, and lots of shaving



– Image courtesy of Hair Tutorials


♥ when I’m wearing my ponytail high

♥ … and pencil skirts

♥ when my clothes fit and I can breathe in it

♥ when I’m in my boyfriend’s shirt

♥ when I read Fifty Shades of Grey and picture the future sex life I’m going to have with my future husband

♥ when I get or give a full-body massage

♥ whenever my lips turn crimson after eating some spicy food (but not exactly when my nose sweats like a pig because of the spice)

♥ when I’m sleeping naked


cos-03-sexy-naked-woman-teddy-bear-mdn– Image courtesy of Cosmopolitan


♥ whenever I’ve accomplished something, (like making it through NaBloPoMo February 2013!), no matter how big or little the accomplishment is


Saturday, February 2, 2013
When was the last time you said “I love you”?
The last time I said “I love you” was…

Monday, February 4, 2013
Tell us about your first crush.
The first crush (or second) (maybe third)

Tuesday, February 5, 2013
How old were you the first time you fell in love?
At 13, I fell in love for the first time

Wednesday, February 6, 2013
Do you remain friends with ex-boyfriends after you break up?
How to remain positive after a bad breakup

Thursday, February 7, 2013
Describe your ideal date night.
Dirty sweaty date night idea

Friday, February 8, 2013
Name the most romantic movie of all time.
Keeping miracles in a notebook

Monday, February 11, 2013
What is your ideal Valentine’s Day celebration?
What spending Valentine’s Day is (ideally) all about

Tuesday, February 12, 2013
What is your favorite Valentine’s Day candy?
Of candies, colors, and balls

Wednesday, February 13, 2013
If you could send out Valentine this year as you did back in grade school,
what type of Valentine would you send out to your blogosphere class?
Here’s my Valentine for you :)

Thursday, February 14, 2013
How do you feel about Valentine’s Day?
All About You: How do you feel about love?

Friday, February 15, 2013
How did this Valentine’s Day compare with Valentine’s Days of years past?
My first ever Valentine’s

Monday, February 18, 2013
What is the most romantic book you’ve ever read?
Pain is part of real pleasure.

Tuesday, February 19, 2013
Martin Luther King Jr. unpacked love and hate when he said,
“I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.”
Which is easier for you to feel: Love or hate?
Love is difficult only if you think it is.

Wednesday, February 20, 2013
Erich Fromm said, “Immature love says: ‘I love you because I need you.’
Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you’.”
How do you define mature love?
All you ever need, you already have.

Thursday, February 21, 2013
Do you think people can live without love?
To die for love is to be alive.

Friday, February 22, 2013
Aristotle said, “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
Do you agree or disagree?
Soul mates are made, not born.

Monday, February 25, 2013
Do you think you would enjoy being a “sex symbol?”
Long legs and all

Wednesday, February 27, 2013
Do you think sex education should come
from the parents, the school, or a mix of both?
Mae West described sex as “emotion in motion.” Unpack this idea in a post.
An educated woman in motion

Thursday, February 28, 2013
When do you feel your sexiest?
Unleashing the inner kitten


– Image courtesy of Hair Tutorials


What about you, girl? When do you feel your sexiest? And how do you unleash your inner kitten?




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An educated woman in motion



Did you miss me like I missed you yesterday? Hope so … because this is the last week of NaBloPoMo February 2013!




Prompt of the day: Mae West described sex as “emotion in motion.”
Unpack this idea in a post.

The beauty of emotions is that they exist in a spectrum. Without emotions there’ll only be vacuum in space, and there’d be no life.

Emotions are natural – all forms of it are healthy to have. Our lives, ideally, run the gamut from subtle to the strong. Sex, like other activities we do everyday, is best done with a full range of emotions, even when you feel old and that you just don’t feel like having sex. If you tend to eat even when you’re not hungry, there’s no reason why you cannot tend yourself to make love even when you don’t feel like it.

I’ve heard real stories from married couples who’s been under the weather with their sex lives. One couple made a prearranged sex schedule as a steamy solution to revive their passion for each other all over again – and it worked. Some days it felt like having sex was nothing but for the sake of sex – as something to check off from the daily to-do list. Other days, however, sex becomes a means to an end. In the heat of those clamorous arguments, when both were exhausted by work overload and started blaming each other for everything that went wrong, and when both couldn’t think of any more words to say to make things right, when both slapped one another in the face, shouted at the top of their lungs in anguish, pushed one another as far away as possible, but at the same time, both could no longer hold up with the stubbornness to say sorry, bear the arrogance to put down their pride, and finally surrender to their significant other in toto – that‘s when the emotion in motion occur.

Stars shoot everywhere. Both see reds of their rage and passion, the violets in the evening light, the blues of their past, greens of the future, yellows of their sweetest memories, and so on.

To say that sex is emotion in motion is true. But really, for me, the physical act of having sex, like eating and breathing and shopping, is just like exercise: Even when modern lives’ mundanity is implicitly killing your passions, when you turn motion into a routine, you and your emotions will be better off healthier and happier in life than the rest who don’t make a move at all.

You can only get so many successes until you reach your climax – so however much you “just don’t feel like it”, might as well do it, do it often, and feel your emotions with every color of your life. Make it a habit to believe that one day, while having sex, you’ll reach the blissful, mythical O.



– Image courtesy of Christina G. Chen via Pinterest 


Prompt of yesterday: Do you think sex education should come
from the parents, the school, or a mix of both?

Sex education, especially for young women, is an often overlooked subject that any fine lady should learn in the classroom of life itself, which is not the same thing as sleeping around with guys until you find the illusive prince charming.

I know that people have different beliefs and everybody leads different lives, but I think sex, and its sacredness, is far too underappreciated.

Girls of today’s generation think that losing virginity is an honor, a sign that they’re all grown-up and womanly. It’s fair to say that the act of sex, the experience of having conquered the bed with a man, is a sign that you’ve matured, that you’ve blossomed into some kind of a butterfly.

There’s nothing wrong with that – only if the man who broke into your cocoon is your soul mate.

Then again, who am I to say these things when I haven’t blossomed into a butterfly?

For one thing, I’ve taken a step to welcome true love. I take in life’s open-box of chocolates, I understood its meaning to a certain degree, and I believe I’ve found my soul mate, Stanley. But I’m still under metamorphosis, and I don’t think I’m fully ready to fly yet.

Until I’m ready to get unstuck from chrysalis, my soul mate has to be willing to wait.

In love and sex, just as you do in any other committed relationships in your life, it doesn’t matter whether you’re physically ripe or not – what matters is your ethos as a whole, as the word “education” itself means you go through processes that develop and improve your unique powers, talents, and faculties of all kinds until they give you the crystallized ability to flourish in this grownup world.

There’s so much more to the mature concept of sex than mere penetration, and I believe with the woman in you unleashed, a character so strong that no matter how hard a man hits you, no matter how difficult your circumstances get in life, your seeds remain immovable, your gentle spirit unstoppable.



– Image courtesy of LadyLimoges via Tumblr


Where do you think a woman can best educate herself on sex, gender roles, and true love?




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Long legs and all



I’m making it, I’m making it, I’m almost there … it’s the last week of February and that means it’s also the last week fo NaBloPoMo February 2013!


Prompt of the day: Do you think you would enjoy being a “sex symbol?”

I’ve done several gigs in modeling that required me wearing minimal clothing.  I had a brief SPG stint to know enough about sex appeal. I grew up with a mom that values beauty so much so that when I was 12 years old, she almost sent me to a modeling school.

Now that I’m working fulltime in the media industry, even though I’m behind the desk 24/7, I still get the camera’s attention sometimes. Experienced colleagues say it’s only natural in this industry to appear on both sides, but I’m skeptical.

Don’t get me wrong. In no way am I implying I’m a sex symbol of any sort; in fact, in my own opinion, I’m nothing close to fulfilling the basic criterias of being a sex symbol: I have a small bust, an average face, and am too thin for a supposedly curvy frame. Though I’m comfortable in sheer fabrics and skin-tight outfits, you can almost always find me hiding behind a big, good book (or my iPad HD).

However, I’m a perfectionist. That means I can get very insecure about things I still need to work on, despite knowing I can never fulfill everyone’s expectations.

When I was 12, I was a different story. I was an awkward kid – I just stood out locally because of my taller height at 170cm. Stepping out of Indonesia and I’m just an average girl who’s blessed with long, strong legs. Now that I’m almost twice the age as the awkward girl, I’ve learned a thing or two about femininity and understand the exact ingredient to make up a true female sex symbol: Confidence – even tough in the eyes of society it’s often otherwise.

Specific list of attention-worthy attributes might include symmetrical face, minimum height of 175cm, is underweight or close to underweight, pale skin, thick hair, and starves herself.

More often than not, aspiring models try to fulfill all these unrealistic criterias, which only diminishes their confidence more than they support her talents. Though not all agents in the industry demand all criterias to be met, a perfectionist will never be able to sustain her job if she’s to spend her lifetime career trying to meet everyone’s expectations.

With the things I currently do behind the desk, I feel confident. I have confidence in writing my sentences. I have confidence in starting conversations. I have confidence speaking and writing in English more than in any other languages. I have confidence in running long with my God-given legs. I find liberty in the act of interacting with others and with myself through the written word – and somehow, the inner critic quietens as I write.

The result is a priceless insight thoughtfully abstracted for my reader when, if I’m lucky, returns me with a constructive critique on where specifically I can still work more on with my subject.

A sex symbol, however, has one and only one intended objective: Sex appeal.

To be honest, it’s enjoyable to a degree. I believe it’s the same case for every woman: Being a sex symbol feels awesome when you only reserve to release the goddess within in the privacy of your home, specially for the person who sees the best in you whether you’re with or without clothes on.

However, though I’d like to be a Victoria’s Secret angel exclusively in the eyes of my future husband, I don’t think being a sex symbol in the public eye is an ideal pursuit.


7-golden– Image courtesy of FOGAL


What about you? What will you do if you wake up one day being admired for your endless legs?